Maybe you never found the partner you thought you’d build a family with.
Or maybe you did, and it ended. And the thought of waiting years to meet someone new, then more years after that, feels like a risk you’re not willing to take.
Somewhere along the way, you’ve heard of another option: having a child on your own.
It’s a lot to take in. What does it actually involve? Are you capable of it? Can you afford it? What will your family think, your friends, the people who assumed your life would look a certain way? Where do you even begin?
You don’t need to have any of that figured out yet. This is a place to start.
You may have pictured a partner beside you. A shared bedtime routine, a hand to hold through the hard nights. Life didn’t unfold that way, and now you’re sitting with a question that feels enormous: can I do this on my own? You might feel scared and hopeful in the same breath. You might be grieving a version of motherhood you always imagined, even as you consider a new one.
You’ve made your decision, and now you’re in it: appointments, timelines, waiting. You’re bracing yourself for setbacks, maybe a loss, maybe another month of no. And underneath the bracing, there’s still hope you’re holding onto, even when it’s hard to admit out loud.
You’re doing it all: work, home, bedtime, playtime…your own needs, always last. You love your child fiercely, and some days you’re just trying to keep your head above water. The pressure to do it all, and do it well, doesn’t ease just because you chose this path.
I didn’t always know I’d become a mother this way.
For a long time, I pictured partnership first, motherhood second. When that timeline didn’t unfold the way I’d imagined, I had a decision to make: wait indefinitely for a version of family life that might never arrive, or choose motherhood on my own terms.
It wasn’t a simple choice. I remember sitting with real fear: fear of doing this alone, fear of what it would cost, fear of what people would think, fear of whether I was making the right call.
And underneath the fear, there was one thing I knew for sure… I knew I would regret it if I never tried. And that as long as I gave it a chance, I’ll be able to figure out my life from there, whether I succeeded in becoming a mom or not. And I have…
That doesn’t mean it’s been easy. I’ve grieved the family I once pictured, even while building a life I’m proud of. I’ve learned to trust myself without a partner’s reassurance, even though I occasionally felt alone in celebrating my daughter’s milestones. I’ve learned what I’m actually capable of, which is more than I knew before. Quite frankly, I feel pretty badass!
This was the best decision of my life. But I know it isn’t the best decision for everyone, and I don’t believe it should be. What matters most is that you get to explore this decision fully and fairly: not with fear steering the wheel, and not with naivety either. Whatever you choose, I want it to be clear-eyed, and truly yours.
Wherever you are in this journey, therapy offers something concrete, not just a place to talk, but a place to think clearly and move forward.
We’ll explore your questions honestly: the grief, the fear, the hope, all of it. Together, we’ll look at what’s really behind your hesitation, and what’s really behind your desire. You’ll leave with more clarity, not more pressure.
We’ll build a space to hold the waiting, the setbacks, and the hope, without needing to choose just one feeling at a time. Therapy here isn’t about fixing the process. It’s about helping you stay grounded while you’re in the middle of it.
We’ll work on the things that actually make daily life feel more sustainable: setting boundaries, asking for support, and letting go of the pressure to do it all perfectly. You don’t have to earn rest. In fact, learning to prioritize your needs and balance will allow you to be there fully, for all of the most important areas of your life, for all the years ahead.
My approach is collaborative, compassionate, trust-driven, and integrative.
Sessions are collaborative in practice, not just in name. You won’t be handed a script to follow. We’ll figure out together what’s most useful, and adjust as things change. Whether we’re unpacking burnout, processing grief, navigating a life change, or working through trauma…we’ll go there gently, with curiosity and care.
I see clients in person in Chicago, IL, and virtually across most U.S. states, so this work is available to you whether you’re local or not.
That feeling is exactly why starting small can help. You don’t need to have the energy to tackle everything at once. One conversation is enough to begin.
Overwhelm often eases once you’re no longer carrying it alone. That’s often the first thing that shifts, even before anything else changes.
Not at all. Many women start therapy while they’re still deciding. This can be a place to think it through honestly, without pressure to land on an answer before you’re ready.
That uncertainty is a completely normal place to start from. We can explore what’s behind it together: the hope, the fear, and everything in between, so your decision comes from clarity, not just from what feels safest in the moment.
Therapy can absolutely help you decide. My role isn’t to make the choice for you, it’s to help you think clearly enough that the choice feels like your own, whatever you land on.
That’s not something I provide directly, but I can point you toward trusted resources and specialists who focus on that side of the process. My role is to support you emotionally through it.
Yes. While I’m not a fertility specialist, reproductive lawyer, or financial advisor, I’m happy to connect you with professionals I trust so you have the right support in every part of this process, not just the emotional side.
Both. I can see clients in person in Chicago, IL, and virtually across most U.S. states, so this work is available to you whether you’re local or not.
Most clients start with weekly sessions, especially in the early stages of considering or trying. Over time, many move to every other week as things feel more settled. We’ll figure out the right pace for you together.
There’s no wrong time to start. Some women come in while just considering the idea, others reach out mid-process, and some come years into parenting solo. Wherever you are is a fine place to begin.
Yes. This is a population I work with regularly, and it’s also personal to me. I became a single mom by choice myself, so I bring both professional experience and lived understanding to this work.
It’s not a separate method so much as a specific focus. I bring the same integrative, collaborative approach I use with all my clients, shaped around the particular questions and challenges that come with choosing this path.
Whether you’re exploring the possibility or already raising a child on your own, this path is valid, powerful, and deserving of support.
Let’s talk about what you need most right now.
